Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Drama Queen

A couple of days ago we had one of those days around here. One of the kinds where the littlest screams for almost the entire day, and at the end of the day you fall into bed exhausted and realize you have no idea why she screamed so much. I mean you know that she screamed because she didn't like the dress-up dress you put on her and she screamed because the door closed behind her and she screamed because you buckled her in the car (and she wanted to do it herself) and she screamed because she didn't want to take a nap and she screamed because she woke up too early from her nap... But really you have no idea what all that screaming was for. And you pray (passionately) that whatever it was will be fixed by a restful night's sleep and that tomorrow will be different. I did pray and it was different, thanks be to God!
My friends and I talk a lot about how to discipline our children--how to respond when those fits happen. A wise friend told me yesterday that victory was only won when she did not enter the mood of her child at all. The victory was not dramatic and the change was subtle, but she could tell that the Holy Spirit was involved. What I went away from that conversation thinking is that I expect too much from discipline. Discipline (my discipline) doesn't, really is not made to, hurry change. It is a slow process. And whether I am disciplining behavior with a slow steady consistency or whether I am disciplining to the heart with creative discipline, the affects  may not show for quite a while.
So back to the princess up there, hiding her face...Next time one of those days come, I'm going to pray for peace--the fits will come, and I will respond, but I don't have to worry if the fair maiden doesn't immediately radiate sunshine. I'll trust the big changes to her loving King.

13 comments:

  1. How annoying is the inability to post pictures? Boo.
    I liked your "Full of Words" Wednesday a lot though!

    A Foreign Land

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  2. What an amazingly well thought out and written post that definitely hits home for me and for all moms. Your friend had some great advice. After all, our main goal is to train them up in the ways of the Lord. Love this!

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  3. I love that header picture.

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  5. LOL - My little girl has been having multiples of those drama days. I don't even know why. Nothing 'seems' out of the ordinary. Oh well... I did get a couple cute pics of her with her new kitty for wordless wednesday.
    ~Kimberlee
    www.TheSpunkyDiva.com

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  6. I remember having these days and now that these days are past, I wish I could have them back. I know it can be exhausting but I wish I had taken the time to enjoy the dependence streak more than I know I did. When your children grow and busy their lives without you, that is when you will miss this. I found you on Thursday's Cup of Joe hop. I know I'm early. I hope you will stop by my blog http://talesfrommyjournal.blogspot.com I can also be found in facebook too http://www.facebook.com/DeniseMartin.LillaRose and twitter @DeniseLillaRose If you like/follow me there I will do the same for you. When you stop by my blog, please check out my kind of fashion (hair jewelry).

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    Tawna

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  8. That is a great perspective! Thanks for sharing it!

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  9. What a cute picture! I know there is drama, but be encouraged! Your kids are neat kids, easy to be around, and well trained. He is faithful!!! What a wise friend you have regarding entering the mood of her child. So easy to enter that mood, and sooo tempting! (reminds me of a lot of that scream free parenting advice). But she is right, as are you, lots of prayer, and a good nights sleep...His mercies are new every morning! Love you!

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  10. That picture belongs in a frame, I love it!

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  11. Cute picture of her.
    She 's adorable.

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    I'm following you back.

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