Friday, May 27, 2011

Be A Good Momma: Slow Down

Maybe you, the Of Such is the Kingdom readers, can help me out with something. This has been making my brain swirl for a few days now and I just don't seem to be able to come to a good conclusion.
As mommas we are supposed to encourage our kids' talents, right? I take the boy to baseball and soccer and art lessons. I take the oldest to ballet and piano. I pay for them to go to a great half-day tutorial where they learn all kinds of wonderful stuff, right? I even make sure the youngest has play dates with friends.
As mommas we are supposed to feed our families well--healthy well-rounded meals preferably three times a day. And maybe even coupon too so that these healthy well-rounded meals are inexpensive or free.
As mommas we are supposed to keep our houses clean so that company feels comfortable, and we are supposed to teach our kids the upstanding ways of cleaning up after themselves.
As mommas we cloth our children (consignment sales and sale racks, anyone?), we play with our children, we teach our children, we nurture our children.
And I love all this stuff; I really do!
AND AT THE VERY SAME TIME I KNOW THAT
We mommas need to slow down. We need to take time for ourselves. We need to use the gifts God has given us. We need to love our husband and make time for him; we need to take care of our bodies--exercise and eat well.
What gives, people? We have a million voices telling us to do a million things, and thinking about it makes me a little bit dizzy.
So, I'm on a quest. Please, if you have ever wondered about this question, FB or Twitter this. Repost it on your blog. Ask your moms or grandmoms or wise neighbors. Bring it up in your women's group. I would love to know what women think on this. And comment with some answers, please will you? Meantime, I'm going to watch my brain keep spinning.
Of Such is the Kingdom is linking up with I'm Loving It, Six Word Saturday, and Super Stalker Sunday.

5 comments:

  1. Am I allowed to comment if I don't have the answers you need. As a mother of 3 I hear you loud and clear on this one.

    I have been known to comment on my blog that I can't be it all and do it all, but it's me that is hardest on myself when I can't. Stop and smell the roses occasionally, if the house doesn't look like a display home and your guests don't like it - tough. As long as your kids are happy, fed and clothed that's all that matters. They'll remember you spending quality time with them long after worrying about the other things. So will hubby for that matter.

    Don't be so hard on yourself, you're only human

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  2. i only have one child and she's under 2 so not really going places yet, but i also work and my husband works...a way that i slow down is to put it all in perspective...right now, the kid is playing on the floor, i'm 6ws surfing and watching PBS, the husband is outside working on his car...and, although there are things to be done, right now we are just chillin'...the things can always wait! :D

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  3. I believe that being a wife and mama is the most sacred job, and hardest one, on earth. We live in a society that goes too fast. I have quit running my boys all over the place to meet the expectations of what I think society thinks I should do. I tend to their emotionally, physical, and spiritual needs and I am a good wife and mother. I do the best I can and don't worry about what I can't do. There is only one of me and I have to take care of me too. I hope you find your path with all you are juggling!

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  4. I'm not currently a mama but I know I don't often take time for myself. I can just imagine how much more severe the situation is for parents with little ones depending on them. Definitely take time for yourself when you can.

    Thanks for playing 6WS!

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  5. I hear you. I understand. There is so much expected of Mom's today. When I was growing up in the 1960's my Mom stayed home. We didn't have play dates. We could go out to the farm where my Grandma and Grandpa lived and, if our cousins were there, we could roam about all over the farm and not get in trouble. Life was much more simple then. I long for the days when I could go off and ride my bike and know that no one would try to kidnap me or molest me. This world has changed into a scary place. Please don't feel so pressured to be the super-mom that other Mom's are trying to attain. I grew up, went to college, got married, had children. I always took time out of every week to go to women's bible study and prayed for my family every night. God will take care of you and your family. Put God first and he will make sense out of the chaos and help you to be grounded.

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