Tuesday, March 23, 2010

This Is Too Good Not to Share

This is the Scream-free Parenting tip of the day:
"Children are a great comfort in your old age - and they help you reach it faster too." Lionel Kauffman

And here's their counselor's take on it: Before we had kids, we used to dream about a big family, all grown up, coming to visit on Christmas and recounting all of the wonderful times we shared together. Then we had kids and we wondered if we’d ever make it to middle age, let alone old age. From the moment they are born, kids try our patience and they test our mettle. And that’s a good thing.

Because along with the extra gray hair and bulging middle (from all that stress related cortisol), we also gain more maturity and wisdom from our kids – if we let the job do its work on us. Nothing asks more of us than parenting does. We must grow up if we want our kids to. We must admit our weaknesses and work on them if we’d like them to do the same. A tall order, to be sure, but one worth all the gray hair in the world. For when we allow our kids to teach us about ourselves, we can then be as free and joyful as children again. -Hal Runkel, LMFT and author of ScreamFree Parenting

I couldn't agree more! My first daughter's pediatrician once handed out a sheet that gave a few parenting tips. One of the things I remember distinctly was that she said if your child is wining and driving you crazy perhaps you need a nap as much as your child does! Sometimes that is impossible, but the point is, we are learning and growing here too. Our sanctification is as important to God as our child's is. If I can learn this lesson, then I truly will enjoy parenting and my children much more.
Happy Parenting!


  1. Very True! I've learned more since I've had kids than I think I did all the years before! I'd love it if you'd link to my Tuesday's Tips: http://couponomicstimuluspackage.blogspot.com/2010/03/routines-help-organization.html

  2. lol, i totally agree with your doctor's tip. i find that my kids' moods are often directly a result of my own mood for the day. "if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."

  3. This is so true. My kids are 3 and 19 months and when they are driving me bananas I realize I need to take a step back and focus soley on them and maybe say a prayer for my sanity ; ). Most of the time I realize I am focused on something else that is not as important and I need to just let that go and re-adjust my focus. I learn from my kids every day and they make me a better person. Thanks for this post, it is a great reminder!

  4. So true! I need to check out that book!

  5. I thoroughly enjoyed a nap today while my LO was napping! Very needed after the last two days. And after finding yet another gray hair this morning...