Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Screamfree Parenting

Recently in my meandering on the internet, I happened upon the Screamfree Parenting website. I liked what I saw, so I signed up for their tip of the day. I planned to be very critical and definitely filter their advice through the lens of Scripture. And I think I have, and they're passing the test. Most of the advice I've read on their emails has been right on and helpful in this very difficult job of parenting.
So here are ten of the tips that I've received and found helpful. The tips consist of a quote and then a counselor's thoughts on that quote. I've summarized those thoughts after the quotes. (Disclaimer: Some of the people they quote have a lot of the exact opposite views from mine, but "all truth is God's truth," and I think the counselor's thoughts are a good take on each quote.)
1. "Television has changed the American child from an irresistible force into an immovable object." Lawrence J. Peter Kids' behavior and energy level can be directly related to the amount of tv they watch.
2. "Human beings are the only creatures that allow their children to come back home."
Bill Cosby Letting your kids be truly gone when they move out for college is a good idea.
3. "Raising kids is part joy and part guerilla warfare. -Ed Asner, U.S. actor (1929- ) Parenting is sometimes warfare. Be both a fearless soldier
and a peace maker.
4. "There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different than the things that we do." Freya Madeline Stark (British travel writer 1893-1993)
We need to evaluate what we believe about disciplining our kids and act on that--make our actions match our beliefs.
5. "Nothing is so aggravating as calmness." Oscar Wilde When your child picks a fight, the very best thing you can do is stay calm. This also happens to really annoy your child, which can be entertaining.
6. "The more I encourage a child to think for himself, the more he will care what I think." Unknown Teaching our children to think for themselves is difficult (it means we have to stop ourselves from always thinking for them) and very, very important.
7. "Results! Why, man, I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won’t work." Thomas Edison (1847-1931) If we try something with our kids and it fails, this is still a learning experience for everyone involved.
8. "Strange new problems are being reported in the growing generations of children whose mothers were always there, driving them around, helping them with their homework – an inability to endure pain or discipline or pursue any self-sustained goal of any sort, a devastating boredom with life." Betty Friedan, U.S. writer (1921 – 2006) We have to be very careful of making our kids' lives too insulated. They need adventure and even danger in order to grow in a healthy way. (Sounds a lot like this post of mine!)
9. "Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first and the lesson later."
Vernon Sanders Law Sometimes we need to let our children fail in order for them to learn a lesson.
10. "A person’s a person, no matter how small." -Dr. Seuss (1904-1991) in Horton Hears a Who
Your child is a person. Sometimes we tend to think of them as objects to be dealt with instead of individual people.
Good words, I think.
Linked with Top Ten Tuesday.

5 comments:

  1. I have read this book and also get the daily tips. I love the quick little reminder. Gives me something to have in the back of my mind each day! I have meant to blog about it too. I liked seeing what stuck out for you.

    Happy Tuesday!

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  2. Great thoughts on some great quotes. Thanks for sharing them!

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  3. I've never heard of that book, nor the website. I love those quotes!

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  4. These are great--thanks! Appreciate your comments.

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  5. Such great tips. I'm totally clicking over to SreamFree parenting. THanks for the summary!

    And thanks for linking up!
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