Sunday, August 9, 2009


More philosophy about rearing children--
One of the most challenging quotes I've ever heard about raising children came from the President of International Justice Mission Gary Haugen. He was being interviewed by Dennis Rainey from Family Life Today on July 1, 2005. The quote is wonderful, so I'm going to put it here as well as tell you where to find the rest of the interview.
[The joy and the fun of our walk with Christ] begin by asking, in one sense, what am I training my children to go do? Am I training my kids to play defense, or am I training them for the purposes of playing offense? Because I think we give our kids all this stuff, and I do, I'm an earnest parent, so I give my kid shelter and food and nutrition. I give them education, and I give them structure and discipline and faith and the teachings of Christ, and I give them all these things. I think there's a point at which my kid turns to me and asks, "Mom, Dad, why are you giving me all this stuff?" And the honest answer for me, many times, as a parent, is to say, "Well, I'm giving you all this stuff so you'll be safe." And my kid looks at me and says, "That's it? You're giving me all this so that I'll be safe, so that nothing bad will happen to me?" And I think something inside them dies, and they either go away to perish in safety, or they go off to look to find the grander adventure in the wrong place. Because what they're actually feeling in their heart, I think, is the word of Jesus, which is saying to them, "No, I didn't make you for safety. I made you to go build my kingdom and transform the world." (Click here for the rest of the interview.)
So what Gary is saying is that we as parents must teach our children of the wonder, excitement, and yes, even danger, of being a Christian. So this is courage: that parents rear up their children to serve to the Kingdom, no matter what the cost.
Look at (in)courage for other Christian moms talking about courage.


  1. I love this blog! Reading it is kinda like having a conversation with you without interruptions. NICE.

  2. Olivia, My favorite line of the interview..."No, I didn't make you for safety. I made you to go build my kingdom and transform the world." Yes, so true, so right. Thanks for sharing this with us!
    Holley - (in)courage

  3. Wow, this was a great post (from way back I know but I just read it)..great reminder, because I often fall into the trap of overinsulating my kids in the name of safety. A belated thanks.

  4. Well thats a tough thought! I hear myself thinking when my daughter gets scared, 'You really think I would ever let anything bad happen to you?' My answer- of course NOT! But if they don't know about the 'bad stuff' how can they really understand and appreciate the goodness and grace of God!